How to Start Fasting and Praying for a Future Husband

Fasting and prayer, two transformative practices, serve as not only acts of faith but also essential steps in preparing your heart and spirit for the incredible husband that God has thoughtfully ordained for your life’s journey.

Remember, love is real, and good men do exist.

This article will take you on a journey that goes beyond the surface of marriage. Its aim is to prepare your soul for a deeper union with Christ as well.

Why should you fast and pray for a future husband?

We often choose partners, friendships, and situations based on our level of emotional healing, which can sometimes lead to problems. For example, someone might stay in a relationship even if it’s not good for them because they want to feel loved. But relying too much on a relationship for happiness can cause problems.

It’s important to understand that true happiness comes from a relationship with God. Instead of chasing after relationships to fill emotional gaps, it’s better to focus on healing and seeking God’s guidance. This might involve taking time to pray and fast, asking God to bring the right person into your life when the time is right.

When we enter into relationships from a place of brokenness, they can disrupt our peace, distract us from God, and delay our purpose. My advice to you is to focus on inner healing, so that you can attract a man who is also seeking God’s will for his life. Additionally, consider fasting and praying for a Godly man to enter your life. “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4

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How to Start Fasting and Praying for a Future Husband

1. Consult with God:

Before starting your fast, humbly approach God and ask for His blessings upon this journey. Request His strength to sustain you through the fasting period and seek His guidance in deciding the length and type of fast that aligns with His will for you. Entrust Him with the details of your fast, trusting that He will provide the clarity and empowerment you need.

2. Choose a fast and time frame:

Once you’ve consulted with God and received clarity on your journey, it’s time to choose a fasting method and establish a timeframe for your fast. Prayerfully consider which type of fast aligns best with your spiritual goals and preferences. Whether you opt for a social media fast, liquid fast, sunrise to sunset fast, sugar fast, technology fast, or Daniel Fast, commit to it with sincerity and determination. Set a clear timeframe for your fast, whether it’s a day, several days, or an extended period. Having a defined timeframe will help you stay focused and committed to your fasting journey.

3. Set a designated time for prayer:

Schedule a consistent slot in your calendar, treating it with the same importance as a romantic date. Ensure you’re free from distractions and create a serene environment conducive to deep conversation with God. Share your emotions, thoughts, and concerns openly, to deepen your intimacy with God.

4. Journal your thoughts and emotions:

During your fast and prayer for your future husband, journaling is important for reflection and connection with God. In your journal, write down dreams, prophetic words, what you hope God will do, what areas you need healing in, your current struggles, and where you want to be at the end of the fast. Invite God to guide your prayers and lead you toward His plan for your life and future marriage.

5. Express gratitude and worship:

Take moments throughout your day to praise God for His goodness and sovereignty. Offer thanks for His presence and guidance on your journey towards marriage. Use prayer, praise, and adoration to ground yourself in faith and cultivate divine love and peace.

6. Let go and let God guide you:

During this time, surrender control and allow God to shape your heart like a blank canvas. Empty yourself of your own opinions, truths, expectations, hopes, and desires, and make space for His divine influence. Release the need to dictate when, where, how, or what your future husband will be like—his appearance, financial status, or career. Instead, embrace the uncertainty and allow God to surprise you. Surrender control of the narrative and trust in His plan.

7. Read scripture about marriage:

As you continue on your fasting and prayer journey for your future husband, immerse yourself in the timeless wisdom found within the pages of scripture. Set aside dedicated time each day to read and meditate on passages related to marriage, relationships, and God’s divine plan for your life. Allow the truth of God’s word to penetrate your heart and shape your perspective on love, commitment, and partnership. Draw inspiration and guidance from biblical examples of godly marriages and apply their principles to your own journey of preparation.

8. Pray for him and yourself:

Prayer is a powerful tool that enables us to connect with God and intercede on behalf of others. Set aside intentional time each day to lift up your future husband in prayer. Pray for his spiritual growth, emotional well-being, and alignment with God’s will. Ask God to protect him from temptations, guide him in his journey, and prepare his heart for the blessings of marriage. Additionally, pray for yourself, seeking God’s strength, wisdom, and grace as you navigate the path towards marriage. Pray for inner healing, character refinement, and readiness to embrace the partner God has destined for you.

9. Become who you want him to be:

As you start your fasting and prayer journey for your future husband, it’s important to think about the kind of partner you want. Make a husband list with qualities you hope to find in him. At the same time, focus on growing yourself. Think about traits like being emotionally stable, kind, and generous. Reflect on whether you have these qualities too. Work on improving yourself through prayer and self-reflection. Look at areas in your life that need healing or growth, and trust that God will guide you. By doing this, you’ll become the kind of person who naturally attracts the right partner.

10. Ask God for Next Steps

It’s important not to let your longing for a partner make you inactive or dependent on someone else for your happiness. Instead, focus on discerning God’s purpose for your life. Seek His guidance on what areas to prioritize, whether it’s personal growth, refining qualities like submission, or advancing in your career or education. Be open to God’s leading, even if it means taking steps like exploring a dating site. Embrace His plan for your purpose and how you can contribute to expanding His kingdom by blessing others. Trust in His timing to lead you to your future husband while fulfilling your purpose within His kingdom.

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How to Create a Husband List

What type of man are you waiting on God for? It’s time to decide what type of man YOU want in your life. Write a list of the perfect attributes of your soulmate.  When you write it down, then you should pray for God to release your hopes and desires to you in His timing!

Here are a few traits I value:

• A man that’s humble and can admit wrong
• Gentle kindness are visible in his actions and speech
• Honesty is important to him
• Healthy emotional life and no hidden sin
• Wisdom guides him in all he does
• He isn’t easily angered because he’s patient
• He listens to God and isn’t rebellious
• A man who fights to stay connected to me and God
• He is sober-minded and makes good decisions
• I am comfortable submitting because he’s a good leader
• He is a good communicator and isn’t afraid of hard conversations

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How to Pursue Inner Healing

Before meeting your husband, it’s important to fast and pray for God to purify your heart. Inner brokenness can cause conflict and never ending issues within your marriage.

It will make it easier to identify your partner’s level of healing when you’re healed.

Pray and fast for inner healing in these areas:

• Insecurities: Do you think that you need a man to feel beautiful, seen, and special? But what if your man can’t make you feel that way? Will you end up feeling rejected and resentful towards him?
• Purpose + calling: Do you know what God has called you to do? Are you waiting for your husband to follow God’s plan for your life? Instead, try seeking God for your individual purpose and you’ll know if your husband aligns with your life when you meet him.
• Emotional Lack: Do you feel lonely, depressed, and empty without a man? But the truth is, no man can ever fill that void completely. If you expect him to, you may end up resenting him for it.
• Distrust in God: Can you trust God to intervene and guide your spouse when you’re having a disagreement? Or will you resort to manipulation, control, lying, or other tactics to get what you want?
• Generational patterns: Are you noticing a pattern of divorce, anger, addiction, passiveness, people-pleasing, or financial issues in your family? If you haven’t broken that cycle with God’s help, it’s likely to repeat in your own life.
• Expectations: Do you expect your husband to be your best friend, share your interests, clean the way you do, be romantic, communicate like you do, and make you feel loved? But building that kind of relationship takes hard work, and you might struggle in the beginning as you both heal and learn to understand each other’s needs.
• Childhood Trauma: Did you experience poor treatment from parents, friends, teachers, siblings, or other family members? It’s possible that you’re carrying wounds from those experiences, and they may cause you to unconsciously fear similar treatment from others. For example, if a parent was absent, you might struggle with fear of abandonment, loneliness, or difficulty understanding love.
• Pain from past relationships: Do you find that the pain from previous relationships still lingers, even after they’ve ended? Whether it’s romantic relationships or friendships, that kind of pain can leave deep scars on our souls. It’s important to allow God to remove that trauma so that you don’t unconsciously fear those patterns repeating.
• Fear of being rejected: If your man does something that makes you feel unwanted, how will you react? Can you respond with kindness and love, even in the face of rejection?
• Fear of abandonment: Are you afraid that your man will leave you? Will you try to control him to make sure he stays? Or will you try to be perfect in every way to make him stay?
• Staying open: Can you stay open and vulnerable, even in the face of pain and disappointment? This is the kind of vulnerability that’s necessary for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

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What prayers to say while fasting?

You should say prayers that focus on the spiritual maturity of you and your future husband. And you should pray that you are both in God’s divine timing to meet, date, and get married.

You should pray that your husband:

• Protected from temptations: O’ Lord, I ask that you protect my husband from the schemes of the enemy. I ask that you keep him pure and righteous in your sight. I declare that he has laser vision and focus to follow your leading, right now.
• Submits to the leading of the Lord: Father in heaven, thank you for guiding my husband into your will. I ask that he would have clear discernment, so he doesn’t stray from your path.
• Has a pure heart: O’ Lord, I ask that you search my husband’s heart and cleanse it from pride, anger, lust, rebellion, deceit, fear, and control. Thank you, Father, because as I pray, he is letting go of control and dying to his flesh.
• Is filled with fruits of the spirit: Abba father, thank you for filling my husband with “…love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, [and] self-control…” – Galatians 5:22-23.
• Has financial and career success: O’ Lord, bless my husband with promotions, jobs, and favor so that he can do your will. I ask that he would work unto you and not unto man. I thank you that he is stable and can keep a job. I thank you that he is financially wise, saves, and a cheerful giver.
• Can make good decisions: Father, I desire a man that seeks you for decisions and moves swiftly at the sound of your voice. Thank you, Father, that you are preparing my husband’s heart and mind to make great decisions that honor you and bring good fruits.
• Has a great community: I thank you, Papa, for surrounding my husband with good family, friends, and spiritual mentors. I thank you that he is accountable to them, and he considers their guidance. I ask that he would feel loved and seen by his community. Thank you that he hears their wisdom and it’s guiding him in the right direction.
• Will fight for connection: O’ Lord, I pray that my husband would become bold and focused in his pursuit of you. I thank you that his submission to you will lead him to me. I ask that he wouldn’t waste time, and he wouldn’t let insecurities or anything hinder him from fiercely coming after me.

4 Prayers for A Future Husband

• O Lord, I thank you for putting excitement in my spirit for my Godly match. I am grateful that you see the end from the beginning and have good things in store for me. Please remove any fear, pain, and unhealed areas in my heart. Father, help me to be whole and secure in you so that I do not depend on my husband to be my source of love, life, and happiness. You make me complete, God. You make me whole. I thank you for loving me to the depths of my core, and I pray that my husband would also experience the depth and width of your love. I ask that we would both understand your love so much that real love becomes our standard. Amen.
• Dear Father, I pray that my future husband and I will not be emotionally attracted to partners who are not meant for us. Thank you for giving us the strength and confidence to trust your warnings when someone is not our spouse. Please protect us from counterfeits, toxic relationships, and partners who seek to harm us. I ask for discernment and revelation so that we may see the depths of their heart. I trust you to guide my dating life, Father, and I place my heart in your hands. I believe that you will guide us both to each other because we complement each other. Thank you for helping us to understand our personalities, likes, dislikes, strengths, and weaknesses. Amen.
• Thank you, Father, because in our time of singleness, you are boldly equipping us. You are teaching us about our calling and how we can love the body of Christ. Please help us both to begin walking in our Godly purpose and hear your direction to walk in the power of the Gospel. I desire to be a testimony of your love, God. I also desire that my future marriage magnifies your name and promotes the kingdom of God. Thank you for teaching my husband and me about the Bible and how to love others. I am excited to be in a relationship that is ordained by you, God! I trust you, Abba. Amen.
• Thank you, God, for bringing a Godly man into my life. I ask for the love, gentleness, honesty, and strength to love him as you do. Lord, I humbly submit myself to you, and I ask that I could be humble in his sight as well. Thank you for molding me to be a Proverbs 31 woman who brings my husband honor. O’ Lord, I also thank you for doing the same work in his heart. I am grateful that you are causing us to be equally yoked so that we can walk together. With you, God, we are powerful, and we will honor you with our lives, family, and love. Amen.

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