Biblical Meanings for Dreaming About Your Ex

6 Biblical Meanings for Dreaming About Your Ex

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Spiritual dreams are an exciting way for God to speak to his children. God desires to speak to us about everything and He wants us to hear him clearly. So, be confident that God wants you to understand your dream and be perseverant in seeking him for meanings!

Also, I would love to help you in the process as well, you can click here to share your dream (or a prayer request). I will try my best, but remember that God wants YOU to grow in intimacy with him… So, sometimes you’ll have to pray and wait for him to reveal the interpretation.

Related Article: 6 Steps To Interpret Christian Dreams To Hear God Speak!

1. Your EX Represents Something Else

The Bible is littered with examples of God using riddles and parables to deliver a symbolic message. Similarly, your dream might have a hidden mystery and your EX might be a symbolic representation. A symbol is “a thing that represents or stands for something else, especially a material object representing something abstract,” according to Oxford Languages.

Your ex may symbolically represent:

  1. your attachment to past events, people, and emotions, due to unprocessed emotions related to the relationship.
  2. your ex may represent your desire for love, connection, sex, or intimacy
  3. the way you view relationships and how relationships affect you.
  4. the way you view that gender, which can be in a positive or negative light.
  5. your relationship fears might unfold in your dreams.
  6. your dream might reveal that your ex has become an idol that you’re obsessing about



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2. You Have Unresolved Emotions

You may also be dreaming about your ex because you have unrealized and unhealed emotions.

Start by evaluating the main emotion in the dream: Were you sad? Angry? Afraid? Hopeless? Lustful? Happy? Or Jealous? The emotions in the dream are usually the area that you’ll need healing in.

Our dreams can show us emotions within us that we maybe unaware of. For example, In a dream, I was angry. In the dream, God told me to let go of what my ex did to me. I said, “Everything? Even though he did all that?” The voice in the dream replied, “Everything.”  Defiantly I replied, “Just like that?  *insinuating he didn’t deserve it*” Then God’s voice in the dream said, “Just like that. Let go of everything.”

These types of dreams are a chance to heal and become a more authentic and healthy version of ourselves. If your dream is about unresolved emotions then you can begin seeking help to heal. This could involve seeking support from a therapist or counselor, journaling, or practicing self-care activities that promote emotional healing and well-being.

Related QUIZ: Are You Carrying Emotional Baggage?

“He heals the brokenhearted, and bind up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

3. Unresolved Emotions Are Affecting You

If you read reason #2 and figured out the unhealed emotion you are dreaming about then it’s time to evaluate how that emotion is still affecting your life. Do you miss them and want them back? Do you feel like every partner will treat you the same? Are you afraid of speaking your mind in new relationships?

Do you always have your guard up now because you’re scared? Are you in a new relationship that is triggering your wounds? Did you become more insecure, scared, and damaged because of the relationship with your ex? Have you forgiven your ex? Does unwanted memories of your ex pop up? Do you want to rekindle with your ex? Are you lonely and desiring connection or sex?

How the emotion ties to your current situation can help you break a pattern of behavior and thinking.

For example, I once had an issue with a friend that was expecting too much from me emotionally. It caused me to feel guilty and physically sick because I couldn’t make her feel better. Then I had a dream about my EX which explained the root cause of my anxiety. In the dream, He was blaming me for the moments he didn’t feel happy and loved. I realized that my ex’s verbal abuse was the root of my fear of saying NO and disappointing others.

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30

4. It’s A Prophetic Dream

You may be dreaming about something that is currently happening or will happen in the future. The goal is to figure out what God wants to tell you. Is God warning you about your ex? Or Is God revealing that you and your ex will reconnect?

Here are a few signs that your dream is prophetic:

  • If you have a good track record of hearing God
  • you aren’t focused on getting what you want
  • you’ve evaluated the dream for unresolved emotions
  • you’re at peace with waiting on God for the full meaning
  • To be sure, please read these 22 Signs God Is Speaking To You + Scriptures!

“For the Lord God does nothing without revealing his secret to his servants the prophets.” Amos 3:7 

5. It’s A Warning

You may be dreaming about your ex because they are about to try and re-enter your life. The dream might be warning you to stay FAR away from them.

In real life, my ex tried to reconnect with me. However, he mostly spoke about how much better I was than his current girlfriend. I realized that he wasn’t trying to reconnect. He was only trying to get his needs met because his girlfriend wasn’t doing it at the time. Although I had no intention of getting back with him, it was the first time I fully realized that he only loved me when I made him feel good.

After speaking with him, I found a dream in my journal where he was so obsessed with himself that he was kissing himself. He flirted with me for a second, but then blew me off to go back with the woman he was with. The dream helped me to finally realize that it’s possible for people to be dangerously selfish. The dream made me realize he didn’t miss me, but he missed being able to drain me for his own selfish gain.

6. A Call to Prayer

Sometimes you are dreaming about your ex because it’s a prophetic dream that is alerting you to pray for them. You’ll usually know it’s a call to pray when it’s very realistic, you feel confident to pray, and the dream is more centered on their life than yours.

I’ve once dreamt that my ex was in a relationship problem that resulted in legal trouble. A few months later, the situation proved to be very true. The truth is, I would have never guessed he would be in that situation, but God knew.

Our job is to pray, even if the situation does or doesn’t come true. Regardless of what happens, our prayers make a difference. Sometimes our prayers reduce the damage that could have happened. Either way, we can be confident that God will show up in a meaningful way.

Related Article: 18 Reasons Prayer Is Important + Scriptures


Frequently Asked Questions

What is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex boyfriend or girlfriend?
You maybe dreaming of your ex girlfriend or boyfriend because you have unhealed emotions OR they represent someone or something from the past that needs to be changed in your current circumstances. The dream serves as a reminder to let go of the past, allowing you to fully embrace the newness and opportunities of your present life. Alternatively, it may indicate a need for closure in this area, urging you to address any unresolved issues or emotions tied to your past relationship. By acknowledging and working through these aspects, you can experience spiritual growth and move forward with greater clarity and freedom.

Why are you dreaming about an ex you don’t talk to anymore?
You maybe dreaming about an ex you don’t speak with because you have unresolved emotions that are causing an unhealthy relationships pattern in your present day life. It’s time you break the cycle, start the closure process, and get true healing.

Why am I dreaming of my ex with someone else?
Dreaming of your ex with another woman or man means you maybe struggling with grief, jealousy, and regret due to the loss. Also, dreaming of your ex with someone else represents a need for closure and healing. It’s time for you to move on from this broken state and the trauma from the relationship. Take note of your emotions in the dream because it will help you understand what emotions you are needing to purge from your life.

What is the biblical meaning of dreaming about your deceased ex?
You may feel sorrow, regret, and sadness because you haven’t gotten closure from the relationship with your deceased ex. These dreams are usually caused by a lack of closure within the situation. Perhaps, the dreams are God’s special way of giving you moments with your deceased ex while on your healing process? Either way, it’s time to release your ex and yourself from any past emotions and situations.

What is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex husband?
The spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex husband is unresolved emotions or unfinished business related to your past relationship. You may be dreaming about your ex husband because you may have unresolved emotions, he is a symbol for something in your past you’re attached to, God may be calling you to pray, and/or it may be a prophetic picture of what is happening or what is to come.

What does it mean if you are dreaming of sleeping with your ex?
Dreaming of sleeping with your ex can have different meanings depending on the individual and the specific context of the dream. Dreams about your ex can point to unfulfillment or a desire for the emotional connection or intimacy you experienced with your ex in the past. The dream may be reflecting a longing for those positive feelings and experiences.

However, it’s important to consider that dreaming of sleeping with your ex could also be a cautionary sign. It may indicate that you are becoming entangled with behaviors, emotions, or even people from your past that you should distance yourself from. It could be a reminder to break away from unhealthy patterns or relationships that are no longer serving your well-being.

What is the biblical meaning of dreaming about your ex dying?
Dreaming about your ex dying can have different interpretations depending on the context. On one hand, the biblical meaning of dreaming about your ex dying could symbolize leaving your past behind and embracing new beginnings in your relationships and emotional well-being. It signifies a transition from what was to what will be, which can be an exciting prospect.

On the other hand, dreaming of your ex dying may reflect a fear of losing the ones you love. In this case, it is important to address any unresolved feelings of rejection and abandonment. Seeking healing and understanding the root causes of these emotions can help alleviate any anxieties associated with the dream.

Why am I dreaming about my ex if I’m married?
If you find yourself dreaming about your ex while being married, it may be a sign that you need to seek emotional healing. These dreams could be indicating that there may be unresolved emotions or vulnerabilities within your heart. It is crucial to address these feelings and seek healing to avoid falling into temptations that may not honor God or your marriage.

It’s important to be mindful that affairs can manifest in various forms, not only involving other individuals. They can also occur through fantasies, excessive focus on work, preoccupation with children, or any behavior that hinders genuine emotional intimacy with your spouse. By seeking emotional healing, you can prevent the temptation to seek fulfillment in ways that may jeopardize your marriage.

Remember, investing in true emotional intimacy with your spouse is essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Christina Daniels is the founder of Adorned Heart. She is devoted to learning about human behavior and its affects on society. She received a B.A. in Psychology and M.A. in Public Policy. She hopes to use her life and academic experience to empower & heal the hearts of women!


      • Destini

        So I have dreams of this same ex every once in a while. This dream I didn’t feel empty but I was enjoying my time with him. And we had a nice time talking with each other. In the last dream he was trying to get back with me or apologize and rekindle a relationship of some sort and he was flirting. I can’t really remember if he was flirting this time but I know there was a lot of smiling and talking.

      • Trina Kant

        Hi, I would love some help understanding this dream🙏🏼
        Don’t totally remember all of it, but, I was being asked by someone I knew (can’t remember who) but he was a contractor for my mom, he asked me, where were are all my ex’s, I had the feeling like they had all helped us before…my family needed them to come and mix concrete to build a step or concrete patio. I went over to my Moms and when I got there, All my ex’s were there helping. Someone said it was going good. So I didn’t go over to see them. I just left. Later I remember seeing a square concrete step up to the house that they had just made, I was stepping up not down.

    • Oliver Gyimah

      Hi my name is Oliver.
      For about a year now I had a dream about my ex girlfriend. In the dream she told me she will marry me.
      And recently I had another dream about her and in the dream she approached me from behind then she came sitting beside me. We exchanged a few words then she told me the kind of words I uttered to her was not good (just joking with her). I told her I love her so much and she also said same to me. So in the dream I reconciled with her. We later on start kissing then all of a sudden she turned to a male. There I woke up and realized it was a dream but I don’t understand. I still love her and still want her back.

    • Mia

      You’re amazing I would like to connect personally via email! Thank you! Spot on !
      -Lord God Bless!

      I literally just went through a back-forth situational-relationship for 5-6 years “with” this guy he would never fully commit , he came up in a dream I think last year or early this year , he was on fire. I was with a groom who seemed to be a guy of a different certain stature who I hadn’t much interest in at the time ( He had a paper bag on his head) but apparently was in weddings attire, and apparently willing to marry me ,we were all at a chapel in a desert with guy #1 in this dream. However, he seemed to be begging me to give him another chance, trying to call off the marriage of guy#2. I said no. The dream ended, I was confident in my decision.

      In reality, I did in fact recently open my heart back up to him (guy #1) and he tried to obliterate it and make me think it was all in my head after consistently sending me sweet nothings; he couldn’t show and tell me what I needed so I blocked him. Now, I’m so happy, maybe a little too happy but I feel WAYYY better now emotionally. There’s a part of me that will randomly cry or get emotionally hurt when he comes to my mind because About two weeks ago I wrote him a love letter expressing my feelings and heart to him because I expected more out of us at this point ( oh yeah, we live in the Midwest now) but he dropped a bomb on me last Monday saying he’s uprooting “moving to Arizona in a few weeks with his kids, transferring his job and what ‘I’ wanted can’t happend now”(though he’s the one that proposed we be married blend our families together then saying he needs me to be his wife/ woman 3 years ago; I was hanging in to these words). We were on and off. ATP I want to move on ASAP after all that because all this time he told me he did not want future kids and I told him I do and I would compromise to “only not have kids for you”, now I have a biological clock & children to consider. I am now trying to see how can I fix my apprehensiveness of relationships and marriage since I was stung by him. I don’t want to be hurt again or hurt another. Thoughts? -Lord God Bless It All -Amen

    • Debbie

      Hi Mia
      I had a dream of my exhusband and he was with a dog that was talking in tongues. Ive just signed our divorce settlement, the process is only being finalised now which started in 2020. Any idea what that means

  • Manny

    My girl friend has dream of my ex occasionally and they’re not frequent but each time she has these dreams they affect her massively. In the dreams she has it’s always an occurring sequence of my ex trying to get back with me. At the start when she started having these dreams she would fight for our relationship and fight my ex away in the dreams but it got to point where she felt no more power to keep fighting for the relationship and letting me go in these dreams with my ex. Weir both believe of Christ and have prayed several occasions for the lord to speak to us regarding these dreams but each time we pray for our relationship and ask the lord if weir meant to be together, my current partner either gets these dreams regarding my ex taking me from her. As weir young couple we still go out to clubs and consume alcohol but once we’ve consumed alcohol we seem to fight a lot and we’ve even tried to pray before going out so fights won’t happen but when they is no alcohol consumption weir fine and get along well and have a great connection.

    • Christina Daniels

      Hello Manny,

      Dreams can be complex and multi-layered, so it’s difficult to give a definitive interpretation without knowing more details about the dream and the individuals involved. However, here are a few possible interpretations and suggestions:

      The dream could be a manifestation of the girlfriend’s insecurities or fears. She may have concerns about losing you or fears of not being good enough for you. These fears could be intensified by the consumption of alcohol, which may lower inhibitions and make it harder to manage emotions.

      It’s possible that the dreams are a form of communication from a deeper part of the girlfriend’s psyche. They could be a signal that she needs to work through some unresolved issues, either in her relationship with you or within herself.

      In terms of what to do about these dreams, it might be helpful to explore them more deeply with the girlfriend. She could try keeping a dream journal to track patterns and see if there are any recurring themes or symbols. You both could also try having an open and honest conversation about any fears or concerns that might be contributing to the dreams.

      It might also be helpful to take a break from consuming alcohol, at least for a little while, to see if that helps alleviate any tension or conflict. Praying together can also be a helpful way to connect spiritually and to ask for guidance and clarity.


  • John

    I had a bad break up with a girl I truly loved 6 years ago,after I revealed to her I had a addiction problem,she chose to leave me and never speak to me again,the first year after breakup I was a complete mess blaming myself for the things that led to breakup,depressed ,suicidal,and very self-destructive,but in the darkness I was saved by Jesus Christ and he helped me truly heal from this event and turn my life completely be around,for the next 5 years and now I live in God’s indescrible peace of and I feel like as recently as now he’s starting to show me a different perspective on that relationship and I always kind of felt that she might of been hiding something too,and since my breakup and I’ve had other relationships,butI’ve asked God to reveal her secret for the last 5 years and the other night out of no where I had a vivid detailed dream that she was with one my friends 3 times,the dream specifically said 3 times,and I woke up sad and hurt and full of anxiety,feelings I haven’t felt in very long time.It felt so real,and in my heart it feels like truth,but i know the enemy tries to stir up these kind of emotions to get me e to react,I pray daily and read the word daily for last 5 years and God has revealed so much about other secrets in life that has been hidden from me but never by dream so I was wa be dering what u think

  • David Marshall

    I prayed last evening that God would reveal to me who it is that I Shouid pursue for my future wife. I dreamed about my ex girlfriend and I’ve tried to reconnect with her for two years she is not interested. Not sure what this meant. Thank you

    • Christina Daniels

      Hi David,

      Dreams can hold different meanings and interpretations. It’s possible that dreaming about your ex-girlfriend after praying for guidance might be a reflection of your desire to be with her. However, it’s important to approach this with discernment and consider other factors in your life as well.

      While the dream may evoke certain emotions, it’s important to be mindful of the realities of the situation. If you have tried to reconnect with her for two years and she is not interested, it may be a sign to respect her decision and consider focusing on other potential relationships that align with God’s plan for your life.

      Remember to seek guidance through prayer, seek the advice of trusted mentors, and trust in God’s timing and plan as you pursue a future partner.

      Blessings to you, David, as you navigate your journey towards finding a life partner.


    • Avy

      I had a dream about being happy when an ex called back so we could get back together, my friend(unknown face) was seriously angry and warning me not to go back to that ex, the exacting words she said was “she won’t take this nonsense, and I should not take it” Asin I should not believe him coz he’s not genuine. The tone of the voice was so high that it woke me up….currently there’s no ex on my neck asking to get back together although the last relationship I ended months back there have never been a connection since we separated even though I still think about him but I won’t get back together. On the other hand I’m currently dating someone I have broken up with in the past so I really don’t understand my dream

  • Samuel

    Thank you so much for the work in dreams.

    I recently broke up with me beloved but as at now we are friends hoping things will work out between as.
    Recently in my 40 days fast I decided to include her in my prayers and I have had dreams about her
    1.I see her come to back to say she misses me
    2. I saw her fetch some if the water I was preparing to go to take my bath with and she said, she believes the water can help her overcome hard situations when she encounters them
    3. A prophet of God, comes to my dream and picks me out from a crowd and says, my ex will be made to stand at my right hand, and that everything will be settle and fine so I shouldn’t worry..

    But here is the case, she is not too much a praying type and she usually gets stressed because of work, she has dreams where I’m fighting with her or something like that

    I tell her that we can go and see a prophet of God but she seems not to give me a go ahead probably because of how things ended up with us or somehow that sort..

    Kindly tell me what to do
    Thank you.

  • Malik

    I was reading exodus and I feel asleep then I had a dream about my ex and it was me enjoying her presence and her enjoying mine so I woke up and had a second dream of me being n her house she was above me sick physically and it was flooding from where she was so I rushed up to get her and saved her then i was outside her house while talking with her mom and I seem firee burning down the house so I pushed everything and every one out the way to save her. I broke her trust In real life so I’m trying to figure out if I just can’t forgive myself or what

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