6 Biblical Meanings for Dreaming About Your Ex
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Spiritual dreams are an exciting way for God to speak to his children. God desires to speak to us about everything and He wants us to hear him clearly. So, be confident that God wants you to understand your dream and be perseverant in seeking him for meanings!
Also, I would love to help you in the process as well, you can click here to share your dream (or a prayer request). I will try my best, but remember that God wants YOU to grow in intimacy with him… So, sometimes you’ll have to pray and wait for him to reveal the interpretation.
Related Article: 6 Steps To Interpret Christian Dreams To Hear God Speak!
1. Your EX Represents Something Else
Your EX might be a symbolic representation. A symbol is “a thing that represents or stands for something else, especially a material object representing something abstract,” according to Oxford Languages.
The bible is littered with examples of God using riddles and parables to deliver a symbolic message.
Your ex may symbolically represent:
- your attachment to the past
- the way you view relationships
- the way you view that gender
- your relationship fears
- that you may have placed your ex before God
- they may represent something you desire
- (sex, love, connection, etc.)
2. You Have Unresolved Emotions
You may also be dreaming about your ex because you have unrealized and unhealed emotions.
Start by evaluating the main emotion in the dream: Were you sad? Angry? Afraid? Hopeless? Lustful? Happy? Or Jealous? The emotions in the dream are usually the area that you’ll need healing in.
Our dreams can show us emotions within us that we maybe unaware of.
For example, In a dream, I was angry. In the dream, God told me to let go of what my ex did to me. I said, “Everything? Even though he did all that?” The voice in the dream replied, “Everything.” Defiantly I replied, “Just like that? *insinuating he didn’t deserve it*” Then God’s voice in the dream said, “Just like that. Let go of everything.”
Related QUIZ: Are You Carrying Emotional Baggage?
“He heals the brokenhearted, and bind up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3
3. Unresolved Emotions Are Affecting You
If you read reason #2 and figured out the unhealed emotion you are dreaming about then it’s time to evaluate how that emotion is still affecting your life. Do you miss them and want them back? Do you feel like every partner will treat you the same? Are you afraid of speaking your mind in new relationships?
Do you always have your guard up now because you’re scared? Are you in a new relationship that is triggering your wounds? Did you become more insecure, scared, and damaged because of the relationship with your ex? Have you forgiven your ex? Does unwanted memories of your ex pop up? Do you want to rekindle with your ex? Are you lonely and desiring connection or sex?
How the emotion ties to your current situation can help you break a pattern of behavior and thinking.
For example, I once had an issue with a friend that was expecting too much from me emotionally. It caused me to feel guilty and physically sick because I couldn’t make her feel better. Then I had a dream about my EX which explained the root cause of my anxiety. In the dream, He was blaming me for the moments he didn’t feel happy and loved. I realized that my ex’s verbal abuse was the root of my fear of saying NO and disappointing others.
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30
4. It’s A Prophetic Dream
You may be dreaming about something that is currently happening or will happen in the future. The goal is to figure out what God wants to tell you. Is God warning you about your ex? Or Is God revealing that you and your ex will reconnect?
Here are a few signs that your dream is prophetic:
- If you have a good track record of hearing God
- you aren’t focused on getting what you want
- you’ve evaluated the dream for unresolved emotions
- you’re at peace with waiting on God for the full meaning
- To be sure, please read these 22 Signs God Is Speaking To You + Scriptures!
"For the Lord God does nothing without revealing his secret to his servants the prophets." Amos 3:7
5. It’s A Warning
You may be dreaming about your ex because they are about to try and re-enter your life. The dream might be warning you to stay FAR away from them.
In real life my ex tried to reconnect with me. However, he mostly spoke about how much better I was than his current girlfriend. I realized that he wasn’t trying to reconnect. He was only trying to get his needs met because his girlfriend wasn’t doing it at the time. Although I had no intention of getting back with him, it was the first time I fully realized that he only loved me when I made him feel good.
After speaking with him, I found a dream in my journal where he was so obsessed with himself that he was kissing himself. He flirted with me for a second, but then blew me off to go back with the woman he was with. The dream helped me to finally realize that it’s possible for people to be dangerously selfish. The dream made me realize he didn’t miss me, but he missed being able to drain me for his own selfish gain.
6. A Call to Prayer
Sometimes you are dreaming about your ex because it’s a prophetic dream that is alerting you to pray for them. You’ll usually know it’s a call to pray when it’s very realistic, you feel confident to pray, and the dream is more centered on their life than yours.
I’ve once dreamt that my ex was in a relationship problem that resulted in legal trouble. A few months later, the situation proved to be very true. The truth is, I would have never guessed he would be in that situation, but God knew.
Our job is to pray, even if the situation does or doesn’t come true. Regardless of what happens, our prayers make a difference. Sometimes our prayers reduce the damage that could have happened. Either way, we can be confident that God will show up in a meaningful way.
Related Article: 18 Reasons Prayer Is Important + Scriptures
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex boyfriend or girlfriend?
You maybe dreaming of your ex girlfriend or boyfriend because she is symbolic of something in your past that needs to be changed in your current circumstances. Letting go of your past would allow you to tap into the newness of your present life. Or the dream could be occurring because you have yet to have closure in this area.
Why are you dreaming about an ex you don’t talk to anymore?
You maybe dreaming about an ex you don’t speak with because you have unresolved emotions that are causing an unhealthy relationships pattern in your present day life. It’s time you break the cycle, start the closure process, and get true healing.
Why am I dreaming of my ex with someone else?
Dreaming of your ex with another woman or man means you maybe struggling with grief, jealousy, and regret due to the loss. Also, dreaming of your ex with someone else represents a need for closure and healing. It’s time for you to move on from this broken state and the trauma from the relationship. Take note of your emotions in the dream because it will help you understand what emotions you are needing to purge from your life.
What is the biblical meaning of dreaming about your deceased ex?
You may feel sorrow, regret, and sadness because you haven’t gotten closure from the relationship with your deceased ex. These dreams are usually caused by a lack of closure within the situation. Perhaps, the dreams are God’s special way of giving you moments with your deceased ex while on your healing process? Either way, it’s time to release your ex and yourself from any past emotions and situations.
What is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex husband?
You may be dreaming about your ex husband because you may have unresolved emotions, he is a symbol for something else, God may be calling you to pray, and/or it may be a prophetic picture of what is happening or what is to come.
What does it mean if you are dreaming of sleeping with your ex?
Sleeping with your ex in a dream could be revealing your deep desire for the way that ex once made you feel. Or the dream could be showing that you are getting entangled with behaviors, emotions, and people from the past that you should break up with immediately.
Why am I dreaming about my ex if I’m married?
If you are having sexual fantasies of your ex while you’re married then it’s time to seek emotional healing. The dream maybe warning you of the state of your heart. At this moment, you may be susceptible to the enemies’ plan. Seeking emotional healing will help you avoid the temptation to fill your emotional needs in a way that may not honor God nor your marriage. And be careful because affairs don’t have to be with a person, they can be with your fantasies, work, children, and anything that reduces your desire to give you spouse true emotional intimacy.
What is the biblical meaning of dreaming about your ex dying?
Dreaming of your ex dying is a signal that you are leaving your past behind and embarking on new territory in your relationships and emotional health. It’s a sign you are breaking up with what was to embrace what is to come. That’s exciting news!
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Jessica your message is an encouragement and blessing! Lots of love!
My girl friend has dream of my ex occasionally and they’re not frequent but each time she has these dreams they affect her massively. In the dreams she has it’s always an occurring sequence of my ex trying to get back with me. At the start when she started having these dreams she would fight for our relationship and fight my ex away in the dreams but it got to point where she felt no more power to keep fighting for the relationship and letting me go in these dreams with my ex. Weir both believe of Christ and have prayed several occasions for the lord to speak to us regarding these dreams but each time we pray for our relationship and ask the lord if weir meant to be together, my current partner either gets these dreams regarding my ex taking me from her. As weir young couple we still go out to clubs and consume alcohol but once we’ve consumed alcohol we seem to fight a lot and we’ve even tried to pray before going out so fights won’t happen but when they is no alcohol consumption weir fine and get along well and have a great connection.
Dreams can be complex and multi-layered, so it’s difficult to give a definitive interpretation without knowing more details about the dream and the individuals involved. However, here are a few possible interpretations and suggestions:
The dream could be a manifestation of the girlfriend’s insecurities or fears. She may have concerns about losing you or fears of not being good enough for you. These fears could be intensified by the consumption of alcohol, which may lower inhibitions and make it harder to manage emotions.
It’s possible that the dreams are a form of communication from a deeper part of the girlfriend’s psyche. They could be a signal that she needs to work through some unresolved issues, either in her relationship with you or within herself.
In terms of what to do about these dreams, it might be helpful to explore them more deeply with the girlfriend. She could try keeping a dream journal to track patterns and see if there are any recurring themes or symbols. You both could also try having an open and honest conversation about any fears or concerns that might be contributing to the dreams.
It might also be helpful to take a break from consuming alcohol, at least for a little while, to see if that helps alleviate any tension or conflict. Praying together can also be a helpful way to connect spiritually and to ask for guidance and clarity.