A real Godly man in marriage knows the yardstick of God concerning marriage. This means he is able to measure what is Godly and what are unhealthy behaviors in a relationship. The Goldy man is not ignorant of what is unholy and works hard to bring wholeness within himself and the marriage.
The act of getting married doesn’t automatically make a man, Godly. Unfortunately, that is the mindset of many people. They may say, “I’m married with children and he goes to church.” However, these are not signs that you are married to a real Godly man.
#1 A Godly man is defined by how he treats his woman.
Yes, how you unconditionally love the wife given to you by God is what defines it all.
Let’s look at what the Bible says in Genesis 2 verses 22-23 “Then the lord God cause the man to fall into a deep sleep and while he was sleeping he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 The lord God made the woman from the rib he has taken from the man and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, this is now the bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh and shall be called woman for she was taken out of man.“
The woman was taken out of man and so God expected every man (Husband) to treat his wife with love and respect. You may hear some men say, “I love my wife!” But, looking at their actions you only get confused because they do the opposite of what they confess. Do you know that love is explained and understood better in actions and not just in words?
To better understand this let’s look at John 3:16: “For God so loves the world that he gave his one and only son and that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.” This verse shows that God loved so much that it pushed him to do something — send his son to save us from our sin. God is the ultimate example of love, because love causes us to do loving ACTIONS for the ones we love.
Also, look at the case of Abraham when God asked him to sacrifice his son (Isaac). Abraham never hesitated to do so because he loved God and would do anything just to please God. This is another practical example of love. You can’t say you love someone without practical moves (Actions)!
#2 Love is an ACTION not just a word.
If you claim to love someone then it must show in your actions consciously and unconsciously. Love should push you to sacrifice or do anything (positively) that will make the person happy and safe.
I hear men say, “I love my wife!” But, they are still having affairs outside or losing their temper by slapping or beating her up. My dear, that is not love! Love doesn’t hurt in any way whether emotionally or physically
Look at what the bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:4, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.”
In verse 7, it talks about love. Now if you read through you realize that love is action (what we do) and not just words (what we say or claim.)
If a man can show the type of love the bible talks in their home, they are a real Godly man capable of unconditional love. He will have the best and happiest home. I’m not saying that he should do all the work, no it should be teamwork! But keep this in mind, women tend to be the best versions of themselves when they are treated right.
“Esteem her and she will exalt you. Embrace her and she will honour you. She will set a garland of grace on your head and present you with a crown of splendour (Honour).“ Proverbs 4:8-9
In other words, the Bible has stated that when a Godly man shows a woman unconditional love with actions, the woman will respond well. She will and should show her love through actions, submission, honour, and respect!
#3 The powerful beauty of two people that love unconditionally is so RARE that it will showcase the love of God to the world.
It is VERY uncommon to find two people that truly love each other unconditionally because that involves dying to yourself — doing the right thing even when the other person hurts you (not abuse). Your relationship show be a model for the world of how Christ loves. Your relationship should cause unbelievers to want a Godly relationship too!
Now it takes a Real Man to love his wife right with biblical principles of love. I will leave you to answer this question to yourself: Are you with a real man? Will you wait for God to give you the real man? Will you pray that your husband will love you unconditionally? Will you win your husband over with unconditional love?