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Are Fathers Necessary? 10 Reasons for Their Importance In a Child’s Life!

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Ladies, choosing a man to have children with should be a very thoughtful decision. The decision affects the child even if the father is present or absent.

Father’s contribute biological foundations and emotional models for children. Dad’s are a child’s first view on how a man should act OR how a woman should be treated by a male. If the child has a twisted or incorrect view of how men behave this will cause the children to accept that pattern later on in life.

For example, women that were born to mom’s that supported toxic men will most likely date toxic men… Unless, they go through a healing process. Why? Because, a simple characteristic as people-pleasing can lead to dating a narcissist or drug addict that takes advantage of such a person. People-pleasing is an incorrect coping mechanism… It provides a child safety to do what others want so they won’t be abandoned or rejected.

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Another example, is for men that have very high testosterone. Having a father present will allow him the ability to relate to someone about his sexual desires and inclinations. Without this guidance, the child is most likely going to become ashamed or lack impulse control when it comes to sex. This furthers the potential for single mothers in the world!

Ultimately, there are so many scenarios that could be presented where the removal of the dad hinders a child’s growth. In addition, having a male role model outside of the home may help but it doesn’t replace the child’s ability to view a healthy relationship inside their home daily. The child will see how a healthy woman and man interact and grow together. How the two different energies balance out and work together. 

Children seek the same energy balance in their adult relationships. Essentially, the model of how masculine and feminine energy is balanced in the home will be the sought out in their relationships. 

Based on the journal articles cited below, Children that grow up with positive father figures have healthier relationships as adults.

Elements that Destroy Relationships

  • Boys that grow up without fathers show increased likelihood of anger problems.
  • Girls that have a weak relationship with their fathers as children exemplify harmful emotional patterns as adults.
  • Daughters that grow up without fathers in a single mother household are at risk for role confusion and role overload.

Social Relationships

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  • Having a father present in early years and adolescent years highly correlates with sociable and responsible adults.
  • Children that grow up with involved fathers are more likely to be open-minded and considerate.
  • Adolescents with supportive social networks and long-term close friendships have a higher tendency to have had strong father-child relationship.

Romantic Relationships

  • Boys that have a close relationship with their fathers have a higher likelihood of an optimistic attitude about intimacy and marriage.
  • Children that experienced positive father-child relationships are more likely to have successful long-term marriages in which they are satisfied with their spouse in later life.
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  • Divorce is less likely in adult years when children experience a close relationship with their fathers.
  • A study showed that father-child early interactions promote secure and healthy representatives of current intimate relationships.

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Facts are derived from the following Journal Articles:

 Kulaga, Jaime L. “Intimate Relationships of Adult Women Who Were Abandoned by Their Fathers: A Phenomenological Investigation.” 2011, 232.

Sanders, M.R., W.K. Halford, and B.C. Behrens. “Parental Divorce and Premarital Couple Communication.” Journal of Family Psychology 13, no. 1 (1999): 60-74.

Allen, Sarah, and Kerry Daly. “The Effects of Father Involvement: An Updated Research Summary of the Evidence.” Father Involvement Research Alliance, 2007, 9.

As cited in Patrick F. Fagan and Aaron Churchill, “The Effects of Divorce on Children” MARRI Research, January 2012 available at http://marripedia.org/effects.of.divorce.on.children.s.behavior 

Christina Daniels is the founder of Adorned Heart. She is devoted to learning about human behavior and its affects on society. She received a B.A. in Psychology and M.A. in Public Policy. She hopes to use her life and academic experience to empower & heal the hearts of women!

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