Discover if you're living with healthy emotional openness or hiding behind survival patterns.
When you feel fragile or emotionally exposed, you usually:
1. I shut down and pull away, keeping people at a distance.
2. I open up quickly and share a lot, hoping someone will understand.
3. I try to stay composed and only share what won’t invite judgment or criticism.
4. I carefully decide who to trust and share with, protecting my heart wisely.
How do you typically handle emotional pain or stress?
1. I keep it inside and try to handle it alone.
2. I talk about it openly, even if it makes me feel vulnerable.
3. I put on a strong face and focus on staying productive.
4. I process my feelings privately and share with trusted people.
When you feel emotionally unsafe, unheard, or exposed, how are you most likely to react?
1. I distance myself, become emotionally unavailable, or shut down completely.
2. I vent quickly, get overwhelmed, or lash out emotionally—then later feel embarrassed or misunderstood.
3. I try to stay in control—maybe by maintaining a perfect image, excelling at everything, criticizing, judging, or subtly manipulating the situation.
4. I pause, reflect, and try to respond rather than react—I’ve learned to notice my triggers and patterns.
When it comes to trust, what is your usual approach?
1. I’m very cautious and rarely let people get close emotionally.
2. I tend to trust easily, sometimes before the other person deserves it.
3. I tend to trust those who reflect how I want to be seen and how I present myself.
4. I build trust slowly, with awareness and healthy discernment.
In your relationships, how do you usually show your true feelings?
1. I tend to avoid showing my feelings because I fear rejection or being seen as weak.
2. I share my feelings freely but sometimes regret oversharing or feeling misunderstood.
3. I show only what makes me look strong and capable; vulnerability feels risky.
4. I communicate honestly but thoughtfully, balancing openness with healthy boundaries.
How do you usually deal with personal space, limits, or saying “no”?
1. I protect myself by keeping people at a distance or going quiet. Saying “no” is easy—it’s safer to shut down than to risk getting hurt.
2. I respect my space and others’. Saying “no” feels like self-care, and I try to do it with kindness and honesty.
3. I want to say “no,” but I hold back because I worry about how others will perceive me. I often overextend so people won't think I'm mean.
4. I struggle to say “no” and set limits because I want to be seen and avoid making others feel abandoned or alone.