Too much pride will cause problems in your relationships, jobs, friendships, and ultimately every area of your life. Unfortunately, pride makes it hard to grow because the pain inside causes information to be filtered wrong and in a way that it doesn’t hurt the ego. Often a prideful person doesn’t know how severe their pride is.
The pride within the person is there to protect their VERY fragile ego. For instance, if you point out flawed behavior in a prideful person they won’t be able to accept it OR won’t be able to see the truth. Especially if that behavior is very embarrassing for them. The fragile ego of others will push them to use different types of unhealthy coping mechanism to deflect painful comments and experiences. The unhealthy coping mechanism can be laughing off your comment, denial, blaming you, downplaying their own actions, be offended you accused them, and many other unhealthy coping mechanisms.
Unfortunately, many that struggle with pride lack support because “pride” and “ego” stop them from asking for help. Or they don’t have the right type of support because the pride causes one to avoid/refuse to take constructive criticism from anyone. And a prideful person may feel afraid of vulnerability or be unwilling to feel inferior to the person giving the help.
What causes pride?
The ultimate cause of pride is trying to fix our low self-esteem, unworthiness, and fears in our own strength. Pride damages your career and relationships because you are only pretending to be confident, strong, and bold.
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Signs Of Pride In A Person
1. If people don’t take my advice, they’ll regret it later.
2. I don’t ask for help because it’s embarrassing.
3. I'm often annoyed or irritated by people that do things slowly or improperly.
4. If there was something wrong with me, I would see it first and/or fix it.
5. I like to do or say things to ensure people think well of me. (people-pleasing)
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6. I have a hard time being vulnerable and sharing my emotions.
7. I criticize or get jealous of someone that gets more attention.
8. I deserve good things because I work hard and/or pray often.
9. I tend to get annoyed or critical of the flaws in others.
10. I believe people are in pain because they did something wrong.
11. I have a hard time apologizing or admitting wrong doings.
12. I am afraid people will take advantage of my weakness.
13. I barely learn new things from other people.
14. If someone disagrees with me I get upset or frustrated.
15. I have trouble trusting or listening to my leaders.
16. I bring up everything someone has done wrong, when I’m accused.
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17. I wouldn’t take advice about money from someone poor.
18. I shouldn’t have to do certain tasks. I’ve earned the right not to.
19. I inform people about my accomplishments, connection with important figures, etc.
20. I often date people or have friends that always need my help.
21. I feel like I’m always doing something wrong.
22. If I don't fix a situation who will? I need to make it better.
23. I would never make the same mistakes as some people I see.
24. They are too sensitive or negative if I hurt their feelings.
25. I make the right decisions and preparations, so things will turn out well.
26. I have a hard time complimenting other people.
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27. I pretend I’m doing great, when I’m falling apart inside.
28. I put people in categories and rank them by level of success/importance.
29. If I disagree with someone, I assume their opinion is wrong because they’re overly emotional or flawed.
30. I have trouble letting God help fix my relationships or difficult situations.
31. I am afraid of what people think of me.
32. I’m afraid to be the spotlight of attention which could make others feel small.
33. I get angry when people disagree or correct me.
34. I try to avoid feeling guilt and shame. So I manipulate the situation to make others look guilty or at fault (blame-shifting).
35. I often point out the errors of others because seeing imperfections annoys me.
36. If someone criticizes me then I assume they are prideful.
37. When someone is sharing their feelings or perspective, I interrupt them to correct facts.
38. If someone doesn’t understand what I’m saying I feel impatient and I think they’re dumb or slow.