Humans were not meant to receive love from one person.
Individuals that look to one source for love usually end up disappointed and frustrated. They often fight about what each other is doing wrong or not doing at all. Such individuals are fighting because they have DEEP needs that are not being met. No one person can meet all our needs or expectations!
Most don’t really know what love is either. Love is not getting someone to make us feel less lonely, more special, nor complete. Love is sticking it through with people and believing the best of them at their most difficult moment. You can read more in the article What is Love? And How Does It Feel?
The truth is we are ALL made to receive love from God and our community. One person just can’t do it for anyone.
What happens when we receive love from one source?
- We may develop the God Complex. This happens when we believe that we can be everything to someone and make them feel loved. The truth is… If they have never felt loved, they will eventually feel that way with you too. Read More: Is The God Complex Hurting Your Relationships?
- We may grow bitter with our loved one. We may feel that they aren’t loving us how we want to be loved. However, they may not be able to. The truth is they aren’t suppose to meet all our needs for love.
- You may feel alone. When your partner is not able to be there or comfort you in the way you need, it may leave you feeling lonely. Everyone comforts and thinks different, you may need someone with a different style when your going through various things.
- We develop unhealthy expectations. We may expect one person to do things they are not capable of. Perhaps, we may expect our spouse to watch love movies with us… He may not be able to stand them! That’s where you can look to friends to fill some of your needs, if one friend or a spouse doesn’t like all the same things as you. Read 5 Ways To Avoid Unhealthy Romantic Expectations to understand this topic further.
- We may learn to cover the pain we feel. When we are using a person to fill our pain nothing ever gets fixed. We may start to use people as a drug to give us a high that makes every problem go away.
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Where were we meant to receive love?
I believe, humanity is God’s gift to earth. In fact, God gave Adam a partner (Eve) because he said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” Genesis 2:18 Did God intend for Adam to only feel love from Eve? I don’t think so. I believe God gave them the ability to reproduce because he knew more people meant more beautiful experiences on Earth. Therefore, he also gave them a command, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the Earth…” Genesis 1:28
When God created Adam and Eve he created the beginning of a family system. The multiplication of Adam & Eve’s DNA would eventually lead to aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, cousins, grandfathers, grandmothers, neighbors, and friends.
Ultimately, Eve was a gift to Adam. Eve would continue to bring gifts to Adam by providing an immediate family, extended family, and community to engage with. Isn’t this a beautiful picture of how well God loves humanity? That he would would bring humanity to the Earth… For us to simply be in community with?
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At this point you may be saying it’s not safe to do relationship with everyone on Earth – That is absolutely true. Though, God never intended it to be this way. God actually wanted to correct this issue when he came to Earth in human form (Jesus Christ). He wanted to show people how to access real love – Connection with himself and people.
How do you have the GREAT relationships God meant for you?
We all meet amazing people and then that fire quickly fizzles out as conflicts arise, this is an issue. We must learn how to address this conflicts so that we can keep amazing people in our lives.
You must learn to love people. Learn to love people beyond their flaws. Try to stick out friendships and go through hard things with the other person. Continually try to love them too much. Then, have difficult conversations to help them understand you and love you better. If the person is difficult and abusive, love them from a distance or with boundaries.
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You are not meant to be alone. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?” – Ecclesiastes 4:9
9 Bible Verses To Have Great Relationships:
Romans 13:8: “Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
1 Corinthians 16:14: “Do everything in love.”
Proverbs 3:3-4: “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.”
1 John 4:16: “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.”
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Ephesians 4:2: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”
1 Peter 4:8: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
John 15:12: “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.”
1 Corinthians 13:13: “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”